The Third
Dimension: Mirror, Mirror, On The Wall
"The Girl Nobody Sees"
(This is the last post in a series of four on this subject)
This girl hides deep within
your pain. Her image has been emblazoned into the core of your being by the people you love the most.
She may occasionally show
her face as:
Comedian
Rebel
Anger-Rage
Shyness
As
I mentioned in my first post in this Mirror, Mirror Series; the authors
John and Staci Eldridge, in their book entitled, "Captivating", believe
that every little girl is born with these questions burning in their
soul...
"Am I lovely? Do you see me? Do you want me? Am I captivating?"
Unfortunately, many times the people we love are themselves
dysfunctional or unsafe people. When they are the ones giving the answer
to our questions – we get confused.
We interpret this by
feeling one of two ways...
- I'm not enough (disappointment)
- I'm too much (overwhelming)
This is
wrong
programming. Wrong information is dumped into our brain and we accept it
as truth. When we begin to look to “people” to identify and validate
us… we are setting ourselves up for failure.
I
recently plugged my phone into the charger - well... I thought I was
plugging it into its charger. Actually I had grabbed the cord to my
Bluetooth. Immediately a message came on the screen of my phone that
intrigued me... It read, "Wrong Power Source".
When we turn to people to meet our
needs or
to fulfill our lives - they are incapable. No wonder
we end up feeling let down, depressed and
devastated. We're plugged in to the wrong
power source!
Only Jesus can meet these needs!
Husband can’t – momma can’t
– kids can’t – career can’t – not even our THERAPIST can!
The result of all this pain - is a WOUNDED
SPIRIT. Burying this pain can cause bitterness and bitterness will poison your spirit and destroy your soul.
Proverbs 18:14 The spirit of a man will sustain his infirmity; but a wounded spirit who can bear?
Hebrews 12:15
Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;
A root wraps around other
roots and when it is pulled up it affects all the plants growing around it. Bitterness affects everyone in our lives.
Okay... so what to do about it? I don't want to just point out the problem without pointing you towards the solution.
The key to healing a wounded
spirit is forgiveness.
I recently learned
these four steps of forgiveness. Pray through these steps and allow God
to see the Girl That Nobody Sees. Release her pain and receive healing.
1. Forgive and
release – tell
God WHAT happened. Call
names. Re-live the pain again… then release it.
(From this
moment I forgive and release this resentment, hatred and
bitterness
against ________. I release all feelings of anger,
helplessness and
hopelessness because they no longer
serve me on my spiritual journey.)
2. Ask God to forgive the person who wounded you. – Acts
7:59-60 Stephen prayed,"Lay not this sin to their
charge…" Jesus
prayed, "Father forgive them…"
Now... take it a step farther and ask God to not only
forgive them, but
to forget it, and never make these
people pay for their actions. 3. Forgive yourself – verbally (abortion, molestation,
adultery, fornication, poor choices)
(As of this moment, I forgive myself for __________ and I
release all resentment I have held against myself for this
failure.)
4. Forgive God –
for allowing the pain, hurt, injury.
(molestation, rape, abuse, death of a child)
(God, although you knew what was happening to me -
and you did nothing to intervene - I forgive You and I
accept what happened as Your divine purpose for
my life. I trust that You felt it was necessary for me to
become the person You desire me to be.)
Reflections
Look
within that mirrored glass,
Look
through the failures in your past
Look
beyond your hair and eyes
Look
behind your alibis
Don’t
let this day grow into years
You
mustn’t live up to your fears
Dreams
unborn, hopes unspoken,
Tears
un-cried, will unbroken
Unsung
songs, books unwritten
Unsaid
words, withheld forgiveness
It’s
“Clear your heart time”
Unleash
your wisdom
Abundant
Life is HOW you live it
Set
her free! She’s your best friend.
She’s
the one – you hide within.
wwc - 1998
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